Board Thread:Writer's Workshop/@comment-29015383-20160810144309

Despite really wanting to work on my longer planned stories, this one popped up in my head and demanded to be written. I'm not sure how well I pulled it off though. This style of writting is a little different for me. I like very eloquent characters and I tried to show this particular individual to be just that. The ending too feels like it could use some more punch but I'm not certain how to achieve this.

Dear Peter,

I couldn't help but notice your message on the board from earlier this week about your second thoughts on your upcomming marriage. Though I'm fortunate in that I have been happily married for 5 years now, let me tell you that I know exactly what it is you're going through. The idea of spending the rest of one's life with somebody else is a daunting one indeed, and it is not uncommon for one to get cold-feet. In fact, this is a regular enough occurance that it has become a rather annoying movie trope. My point is, you needn't fret about your nerves and fears. They're common as rain in England.

Still, I would feel amiss if I didn't at least attempt to alleviate some of your concerns.

Marriage is a beautiful and sacred event. Under the eye of God you tie your lives together with the promise to never part, regardless of the obstacles you come across. You will be together forever, experiencing fortunate and misfortune as one. I am certain you still remember the joy you experienced when she said yes to your proposal (which, I might add, was a very romantic one. The Moraine Lake at sunset is beautiful). I know I do. Every morning when I wake, I feel that very same joy the moment I lay eyes upon the calm, gorgeous visage of my wife and smell her gentle perfume still lingering in the air. I imagine it will be no different for you. There is no feeling that can compare to the simple knowledge that the one that holds your heart is so close.

Naturally, marriage is not all sunshine and happy times. I have found that it is the early years that are most strenuous. Not all little details you discover about your partner will be pleasant, and more than once you may find yourself vehemently disagreeing with one another. I urge you to not make the same mistakes as I did. Do not avoid an argument or confrontation. I held the misguided idea that I shouldn't argue with my darling. Afterall, I love her and at that time I didn't want to end up fighting her. The problem with walking out on a budding argument however is that it only raises tension and frustration.

Only recently did I become aware of this myself, when everything reached its boiling point. We engaged in a rather heated arguement over something that was honestly a trivial matter. It was unpleasant and emotions ran high, however once everything was said and done peace returned to our relationship. To be honest, our lives improved a great deal afterwards. She listens to my problems now without a frown or complaint, and I hold her lovingly whenever she needs it. To be a bit brassen about it, that one argument also very much reignited the passion. Previously our stolen moments between the bedsheets were few and far between, but now I find myself entangled in her nearly every night. We've even begun to be a bit more experimental about it, which is a rarity for me!

There are of course a few caveats. Marriage is afterall, an endless search for the right compromise. The bedroom is chilled, just for her, and I find myself going out for her costmetic needs on a much more regular basis. A tip: learn the shade and brand of make-up she frequently uses, and find out what her favorite perfume is. I swear, we must be going through a bottle a week at least, but whenever I look upon her serene expression I find it all worth it. She's certainly not complaining either.

I hope my message will be able to help you at least little. Though it is early, I wish to congratulate you and your partner, and I hope your marriage becomes perfect and fulfilling as mine.

Sincerely -Jay 