Board Thread:Chat Discussion/@comment-5590118-20141120182446/@comment-5564808-20141121225621

Xelrog T. Apocalypse wrote:

Nihilus Nix Naught wrote: Since most of the things about chat I dislike have been brought up already, I'm gonna say this one.

I'm tired of people coming on chat and going on and on about what mental problems they have. Like, seriously, none of us want to hear about it, really. And eventually, it becomes a game of "Who Has The Worst Mental Issues" and beyond that, "Who Has The Worst Life".

I have nothing against people talking about their problems in chat, but when it gets like that, it is just fucking annoying. I wouldn't limit it to "mental issues," people come on the chat just looking for sympathy in general all the time. I don't want to be an ass, I really don't--and it's great that the chat community is so caring towards one another, but it's also really awkward to an outsider when you pop into an internet chatroom to find everyone being so familial and having a pity party. I know, User X has been so depressed lately, and you guys are his only friends, and he comes onto the chat every day for valuable life advice, but it's... a little heavy, for the purposes of the chat.

I feel bad because I sound like I'm discouraging developing close bonds with other people. I'm not. I just think these kinds of touchy personal issues can be dealt with elsewhere than in the chat, which is meant to be a fairly lighthearted pop-in pop-out place where people go to relax and goof off/hang out, not to play psychologist. Not to mention that it makes it really awkward for new users who pop in during these episodes feeling like a third wheel, and I can only imagine if someone interrupts said pity party with a legitimate question, they're probably yelled out of the room for being "unsympathetic and tactless." I'm sorry I have been contributing to this problem. I admit that I quite annoyingly often go and say dark things about how I really feel about myself, etc., and while yes it is equally admittedly and pathetically because this feels like one of the only places where I can be honest about that kind of thing, I'll try to tone it down or at least keep it in PMs or something. If you see me doing this and it makes things awkward or is just irritating/a "downer," please call me out on it.